I had a client who was part of a three-person founder team.
When a conflict began brewing between her two co-founders, she noticed it immediately — tense meetings, subtle power shifts, a loss of respect. She knew it was impacting morale.
And she did nothing.
Every time she thought about speaking up, her stomach tightened.
“I don’t want to make things worse,” she kept telling herself.
But under that thought lived a deeper belief:
“It’s better to not rock the boat and stay focused on our goals.”
So she stayed quiet. She softened feedback. She avoided the conversation. They were in the middle of a fundraising round, after all.
But the issue didn’t go away.
By the time she finally addressed the conflict, trust had eroded. One co-founder was threatening to quit. The damage had already been done though — not because she lacked communication skills, but because a limiting belief told her conflict and leadership couldn’t coexist.
We all carry internal narratives — stories about who we are, how we relate to others, and what’s possible for us. Some of these beliefs empower us. Others, however, quietly sabotage our ability to lead, speak up, and show up in difficult conversations.
These are your limiting beliefs.
And they may be doing more harm than you think.
What Are Limiting Beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are deeply held assumptions — usually unconscious — that shape how we interpret challenges, make decisions, and engage with others.
Many limiting beliefs originate in childhood or from repeated experiences that taught us to think, feel, or behave in a certain way to stay safe, gain approval, or avoid rejection.
Although they’re personal, limiting beliefs often fall into familiar categories. Recognizing which category yours belongs to can help you unpack it more effectively.
Here are a few common types of limiting beliefs:

Do any of these sound familiar?
These beliefs don’t scream, they whisper.
They show up in meetings, in moments of hesitation, in the silence that follows tension. They make it harder to give feedback, set boundaries, or express what we really need.
Awareness is the First Step
When left unexamined, limiting beliefs become self-fulfilling. You stay quiet → your ideas go unheard → your belief that “no one listens to me” gets reinforced.
But here’s the good news: you can change the belief — and with it, the entire behavioral loop.
When we name a belief, we create space between the belief and ourselves. And in that space lies choice.
This isn’t about judging yourself. It’s about asking:
- Where did this belief come from?
- Is it still true?
- Is it helping — or hurting — how I show up?
Try It For This Yourself
If this resonates, I created a free worksheet to help you identify your own limiting beliefs:
It takes about 15–20 minutes and is best completed in a quiet space. You’ll reflect on thought patterns that show up in conflict, leadership, and communication — especially when things get hard.
🙋Only Have 5 Minutes?
If you’re short on time, ask yourself these self-coaching questions to start surfacing your beliefs right now:
- What story do I tell myself when there’s conflict or disagreement?
- What’s my default reaction when I have to say something uncomfortable?
- What do I believe is true about how I show up during difficult conversations?
No pressure to fix anything — just notice. Sometimes, noticing is the first act of transformation in helping us to create a new middle within ourselves.
Final Thoughts
Difficult conversations aren’t just about communication skills.
They’re about the stories we tell ourselves before we even open our mouths.
If you want to navigate conflict more effectively — at work or at home — start by examining the belief behind your silence, your anxiety, or your over-accommodation.
Because the moment you recognize your limiting belief…is the moment the conversation can start to change.
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